The Art of Parting

Damn, Girl. Get Your Shit Together.

This is going to come as a huge shock to you: I’m a fairly saucy woman. Spicy. A firecracker. A real pistol. An over-eater…wait, no, that doesn’t belong there.

I enjoy myself very much. I kick ass, take names, make sure those names are kicking ass, and make sure those asses are kicking names. What can I say, I’m thorough.

Being this way has its benefits. I set my mind to something and just…go. If there is something I want on the other side of a mountain, give me a shallow spoon and watch me tunnel, baby.

There is, however, a dark side to combining ambition, intense love, and brutal honesty.

The arson in me recognizes the arson in you

This post is for my warrior women. My Xenas. My tough mothers. Damn, you are sexy AF. I love powerful women. You bitches aren’t to be trifled with, and I…

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Be Still, My Mind


Some days, thoughts run around in my head like an upload on a super fast high bandwidth.  It started when I began wedding planning and watching some shows (more on this in another post).  Now that I’m done with planning (did it for just 2 months, with 5 months to spare 🙂 self-pat in the back) and just waiting for timely execution, all the ideas and inspiration I had just won’t go back where they came from, or even go to bed.  If this is not inspiration overload, i don’t know what it is.

Here are some ways I’m dealing with Inspo overload.  I’m still open to suggestions:

  • Write it down.  Much like on a journal or blog draft, I started writing down without filtering.  This way, my mind can rest even for a bit for the day.  Even if it comes back to me another time or day, I still bought myself neural ceasefire, or some snooze.
  • I clean up.  Here and there, some spot, the closet.  I pride myself in overcoming the urge to clean up everyday.  Don’t get me wrong, I like to keep things neat and tidy, but there was a time when I couldn’t sleep before cleaning up the whole house. yup.
  • Take a screenshot.  If and when I’m too lazy to write, or a screenshot would better help retention, I go on a snipping spree.  I either keep them in my Instagram collection, pinterest or compile in a folder/document.  Then I forget about them.  Just kidding 🙂
  • I  schedule projects.  It’s a blessing and a curse — I think I’m a curiosity junkie.  So whether it’s to read a pile of borrowed books, articles or take up leather crafting or silver-/metalsmithing, or urban gardening, when my not-so-hectic-anymore schedule permits, I go for it.  This is how I came up with weekend experiments.  More posts on this soon 🙂
  • I meditate.  I do this rarely, but I think I should do so more often.  Yoga, forest bathing or just walking in the park calms and slows me down.
  • Other things I rarely try but works – soaking in a tub/bubble bath, lying in bed staring at the ceiling, baking (but too lazy to buy ingredients some times), crafting, shopping.  If all else fails, I chase the poor unsuspecting resident dog.

How do you calm your mind?  Would love to get other ideas.

October 15th is Red Wine Day!

So yesterday was..

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Did you know?

One bottle of wine contains the juice of about 3 pounds of grapes

Here are today’s five thing to know about red wine:

  1. The top three imported wines sold in the U.S. are Yellowtail (Australia), Cavit (Italy), and Concha y Toro (Chile).
  2. The term bouquet refers to the total scent of the wine. Aroma is the scent of the grapes. When wine tasters want to describe the bouquet and the aroma together, they use the term nose.
  3. In 2008, the top five wine-producing states in the U.S. were California (3.4 million tons of grapes crushed for wine), Washington (145,000 tons), New York (45,000 tons), Oregon (40,000 tons), and Pennsylvania (13,200 tons).
  4. According to the U.S. Dietary Guidelines, there are 100 calories in a 5-ounce glass of wine (compared to 150 calories in a 12-ounce beer).
  5. The ancient Greeks had a wine glass to ensure the drinker’s moderation…

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Keeping It Real, and Green

It’s only been two months, but it feels like I’ve been doing this wedding planning for a year.  I’m still amazed at the amount of work and time it takes to put up a wedding event.  And the golly!  Anything with wedding in it does have a whole new, higher and exponential inflation rates wrapped around it.

But fiancé and I (mostly me) are not to be intimidated, nor budged.  After all the research and wedding fairs and a few meetings in between, I’m more positive and can say that it is doable; a green, sustainable yet fun and memorable wedding 🙂

Some efforts we’ve taken to this pursuit, so far:

  • An e-Save-the-Date
    • There are numerous design templates on the net that are editable and FREE.  Some sites I used are canva, eviteweddingchicks and of course, pinterest.  I chose a minimalist design with some greenery and floral touches and used our color scheme gradient as background colors.  Save-the-dates do not have to match your overall wedding color scheme and theme, but it won’t hurt to coordinate them a bit.  For destination weddings, best to send it early, at least 6-8 months before the wedding to give everyone time to make travel plans.sample savethedate
  • Few formal invitation printouts on seed paper or recycled paper
    • Some people are still not keen on using e-Cards or digital platforms to announce formal events.  Luckily, most of our guests are millennials or xennials so this won’t be a concern.  For some of our older guests, we are planning to use formal printed invitation cards using these special papers.  Send these out 3-4 months before your destination wedding for good measure.
  • A wedding website
    • A wedding website is probably not as popular in the Philippines as it is in the US or elsewhere, but I’m glad there are many platforms out there that are available globally.  I opted for a simple, classy theme in digital album form from for posting updates/announcements, a photo/video gallery, travel tips and accommodation options for our destination wedding and added another 2-3 page website with an almost similar minimalist theme from as a one-stop site for wedding event details and RSVP management.  So far so good!:)
    • Sample page: and wedsite.comSample the knot pageSample wedsite page
  • Buy RTW or off-the-rack wedding gown
    • The options are limited locally but fortunately, there are a few relatively new shops that are going in this direction.  Getting designer gowns few seasons or years ago definitely won’t hurt the eye and put a big hole in the pocket.  I’m also eyeing gowns that can still be altered to be wearable even after the wedding, or maybe sold or rented out.
  • Buy custom shoes that can still be worn after the wedding
    • Other goals are to not kill my feet in one day, be able to dance or at least walk during the duration of the event and buy shoes that are of excellent quality and will last for many years.
  • Use greenery with some flowers instead of all-out flower arrangements for the ceremony and reception
    • I’m not so into flowers anyway, plus I’d rather use potted plants/flowers instead of plucked bunches for a one-day event however special.  Styling with greenery, when done right, can actually look very organic, minimalist and classy.
    • View from prep site/wedding hq 🙂
    • greenery peg
  • DIY additional décor, place cards and other items where possible.
    • This can be a way to indulge the artsy in you and also be a good bonding time with your family or wedding party.  Some ideas would be biodegradable confetti, calligraphed place cards, DIY candles, brooches, etc.
    • Reception lighting pegs
    • lighting peg

So there you have it!  A wedding as green as it gets:)  I hope to encourage others to tread lightly with not just their own weddings but with our daily footprint, one step at a time:)

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